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“How to Stop Bullies” book reviewed in Denver Business Journal
By Ben | January 28, 2008
On January 25, 2008, the Denver Business Journal reviewed “How to Stop Bullies in Their Tracks.” Here’s what they said in “Ben’s book on bullying tells how to stop them.”
“Ben Leichtling, who writes the monthly ‘The Human Element’ column for the Denver Business Journal, has published ‘How to Stop Bullies in Their Tracks’ (www.BulliesBeGone.com, $19.95). He describes the book as ’20 case studies of people who succeeded against controllers, critics, manipulators, emotional intimidators and self-bullying,’ and it’s a companion book to his earlier tome, ‘Bullies Below the Radar.’
The book is loaded with real-life examples – including some from the workplace.
Since 1985, Leichtling has been a consultant, psychotherapist and life coach-advisor.”
I’d add only that people are catching on to my tips because I get lots of comments like: That’s why I could never make it work with my ex-wife or that’s why I always lose my self-confidence when I’m with my boss or now I know what to do with my control-freak sister or I’ve stopped my hostile, manipulative teen.
Topics: Bullies at Home, Bullies at School, Coaching, Consulting, Hostile Workplace, Public Speaking, Relationships, Stop Bullies Book | 46 Comments »
February 18th, 2008 at 3:05 pm
Now, perhaps for the first time, readers will be able to learn how others (just like them) have used your Books methods to change their own lives. This will encourage others to take the first key step (READ “How to Stop Bullies in Their Tracks”) and then they too can begin to put together, by following your book’s suggestions, their own action plan toward personal freedom from all the different kinds of Bullies!
This paperback book is easy to read and has itself generated many comments from others who have read the title! I can think of several folks that already asked to read it after I’m done.
February 28th, 2008 at 10:49 am
Hi Don,
Thanks.
Some shameless promotion: Encourage them to buy the book so they can make notes in it while they plan and adjust their tactics to get the bullies out of their lives.
That’s the five-step process for creating a bully-free environment at work and at home.
Best wishes,
Ben
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