Fear Factor
When I was 23 I took a psychology class. We were asked by the professor what our biggest fear in life was. Most classmates mentioned death, and snakes. I decided to be honest, real honest, and announce my biggest fear- marriage. Yes, the harmonizing of two people committing to each other by law scared the hell out of me. Go ahead and analyze my fears, but I never understood why either- I wasn’t a product of divorce, or had a terrible childhood, or anything severe. Half the students in the class were married, and looking back now, I understand their discomfort towards me.
I had this mindset that marriage was something I didn’t want any part of in my life. I don’t know if age and wisdom eased it up, or if it was meeting Scott. Scott was everything I wanted in a man- he was Godly, academic, handsome, and unlike anyone I’ve known, has the most character and integrity. To add to the swoonworthiness, he’s also a professor, a writer, and a tech nerd. Yes, he seemed too perfect. I took the plunge and we married shortly after we met. Even after three years of marriage, everyday I wake up to my husband and I feel a little braver each day.
Kaelah from little chief honeybee gave me the opportunity to talk wedding for her Wedding Wednesday Feature and I’m so grateful she let me share! You can check it out here. Thank you again, Kaelah!
I think the hardest thing about getting married was changing my last name. I was at the DMV and I totally started crying in line because I realized I would never be what I was ever again. lol
it's funny now looking back but marriage is whatever you make it.. such a cute wedding photos.
Sometimes you have to just jump in feet first to see that it's not so scary after all
so so so lovely, reading this and the guest post makes me so happy
'nothing to fear but fear itself
Exactly how I feel. I didn't know any better until I met my Aaron. We were both at the right place (a hole-in-the-wall karaoke bar) at the right time (in our lives) with the right person. I wasn't looking for anything and he just fell in my lap. He was too perfect so I denied it for a couple months until he completely proved me wrong and I realized true love is real. We are lucky in love. Thanks for sharing!
Exactly how I feel. I didn't know any better until I met my Aaron. We were both at the right place (a hole-in-the-wall karaoke bar) at the right time (in our lives) with the right person. I wasn't looking for anything and he just fell in my lap. He was too perfect so I denied it for a couple months until he completely proved me wrong and I realized true love is real. We are lucky in love. Thanks for sharing!
You're so stunning! And I can't believe you had such a beautiful wedding on a small budget, kudos to you! Also, that proposal, SO cute!
How sweet! It's good to see that marriages can last after a short courtship (my husband and I were introduced in Jan 2010, met for the first time in March 2010 – he was in vegas, i was in ontario, canada – and were engaged Sept 2010. I moved to Vegas in Jan 2011 and we were married in April 2011). This gives me plenty of hope
thanks for sharing!
I love this post. I wasn't afraid of marriage as such, but I never had much interest in it – I couldn't imagine ever being that close to anyone and I didn't see the point in the "bit of paper" (other than a few tax breaks). Well, I still don't feel the NEED to get married, but I'm in a relationship and at a place where, if my other half wanted to, I would… and I would even be excited about it… and that still sometimes surprises me.
I love your guys' wedding; I never get tired of reading about it! So unique for its time<3
I love your honesty and you two are absolutely darling! Congrats on three years and here's to many more!
What a beautiful wedding! You look so truly happy and in love, it really shows.
i never ever wanted to get married. then i met morgan. its funny how things change eh.great post.-kim
What a sweet and beautiful post! Your wedding looked perfect.
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this is so sweet! love your honesty.
Such a sweet and honest post. I love it! xo, rvhttp://aneclecticheap.blogspot.com/
Thanks for sharing, that was really adorable. I'm 23 now and the biggest realist of anyone I know. I definitely am so terribly afraid of marriage, but I also don't feel like humans are monogamous by nature and I've unfortunately been cheated on more times than not
But reading stuff like this truly does give me hope and I realllllllly hope one day to find a soulmate who is perfect for me and loves me unconditionally.
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as someone who isn't married yet i totally understand. i would like to get married one day and yet the idea of it is scary. it's a big step that can't be taken lightly. i love your library themed wedding, it's so you and you looked gorgeous!
Aww, this was so sweet.
And I never get tired of seeing pictures of your library-themed wedding! The weirdest part of getting married for me was the wedding itself. I've know my husband since we were in 7th grade, we were best friends before we ever dated, so the idea of starting a life together seemed perfectly natural… but the idea of putting on a white dress and walking down the aisle in front of all our friends and family just seemed so surreal!
You're such an inspiration my friend xxx
Back from Karlah's blog! You made me cry Diana!!! AT WORK!!!
I was also very wary of marriage (and everyone knew it, lol)…until I met my now husband. Something just clicked, and wham! My entire thought process changed regarding love and marriage. Great post; so relate-able.
So sweet! Is it bad that I think what's even scarier than marriage is the fact that half of your class were already married? I mean, I definitely know my share of people that married young, but not to that extent. That's a little foreign to me, but maybe it's a NY thing? (Probably not.)Anyway. Lovely post
You're so fortunate to have found someone who you want to be with. My biggest fear… is that I wont. It's the only thing my parents want for me and I just feel like I'm not going to find the right one, no one feels worthy enough as weird or conceited as that sounds (I promise I'm not conceited) but to get married is a big deal and I'm a lifer. My question for you is, will there be someone someday? I certainly don't expect you to be a fortune teller, but is it worth waiting instead of settling? Or does everyone settle a little bit?
I love this!! So honest.
I was never *afraid* of marriage, persay, but I was determined that I would never get married…and then I met mister husband and we got married after 9 months of knowing eachother. lol. 4 years later, I'm pretty glad I didn't stick to my guns – but I do still refuse to change my name…
I just found your blog — thank you for this post – i love the honesty of it! I was scared of marriage too, but it's so crazy how when you find, "The One", everything changes — I've been married for almost 5 years now and am soooo glad I took that plunge too. I can't wait to read more of your blog and get to know you better!
Honesty is the best policy. What a gorgeous bouquet!
I love this. You are so honest and your relationship is so healthy and happy bc of it. Marriage is scary in the sense too that you are forced to think of the rest of your life and your mortality. That part I do find scary, as well. But then I think about living it all with my husband (and now with our baby too) and life is just better and happier and calmer and more exciting. x